I was friends with a married couple back in grad school in the '80s. They restored vintage cars and took them to car shows. The wife actually knew more about the engine than the husband. But no one ever directed questions to her. I constantly read about this kind of thing still happening now, 40 years later.

The other thing that bugs me is addressing a room full of women, or mix of men and women, as “guys”. No I'm not a guy, and this isn’t a “neutral” greeting no matter how many times men say it is. Would they be okay being addressed as gals?

There are many actually gender neutral terms: everyone, team, y’all if so inclined, people.

Telling me my objection is because I’m “overly sensitive” is a form of gaslighting and more sexism.